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Ways To Improve Self Esteem

Child Self Esteem

ways to improve self esteem Learning new skills and gaining mastery over themselves are great ways to improve self esteem in children.

Sure, praise your children and tell them you are proud, both of them and for them.

However, children learn best when they know it for themselves by their own experience.

Boosting self esteem by telling them they are great kids is no substitute for gaining this knowledge through their own personal experience.

Teach Them HOW
Rather Than Doing it For Them

Think about this saying in relation to boosting self esteem in children

Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day.
Teach a man to fish and you have fed him for a lifetime.

Give your children the opportunities to improve self esteem by experiencing pride in their own achievements and by gaining mastery of new skills.

  • Confidence comes about through experience - Experience comes about by doing it yourself. Don't do it for them - step back and allow your children the opportunities to get the experience for themselves.
  • Encourage them to make a commitment to a new project.
  • Allow them the time they need to see it through.
  • Make it possible for them to learn to master their bodies through physical accomplishment by participation in sports, games, music and dance.
  • Be an encourager of involvement in sporting activities. Be there on the side line watching and cheering them on.
  • Give them every opportunity for responsibility at home so they learn to be responsible at school.

  • Encourage situations that allow them to practice generosity, to apologise, to be forgiving, to share. creating these wonderful opportunities for your children you must also allow them to experience disappointment when it occurs, to make mistakes, to confront problems, and to experience failure.

If you don't, you are feeding them fish for a day rather than setting them up as fishermen for a lifetime.

As parents we want to protect our children from all life's pain and discomfort, however, no matter how much we try, it is an impossible task.

If we carefully monitor our child's activities and achievements, and pay attention to whatever unfolds in their daily lives, we will be able to provide our children with great opportunities for emotional growth and understanding through life's knocks and shocks.

This is how resilience is built.

How to Build Self Confidence?
Encourage Risk Taking in Your Children

Encourage Risk Taking

Experience has taught me that there is no need to set up these moments. Rather, life itself takes care of that.

ways to improve self esteem As a parent, your task is not to quickly step in and rescue your child when you see disappointment or failure looming.

Instead be your child's emotional boundary at that moment.

  • Be strongly there for them. Help them take stock of the situation.

  • Encourage them to name and find some understanding about the feeling.

  • Help them to talk about their feelings around the disappointment of failure.

  • Be aware of modelling this behaviour for your children.

  • Always be aware of your child's age and stage of development.

  • Always pay attention to their emotional limitations and monitor your response for appropriateness.

  • Have the courage to be a brave parent and an enabler of your child's growth through these ways to improve self esteem for your child.

    Self Esteem Affirmations

    raising confident children Ways to Improve Self Esteem

    Get into the habit of telling your children:

  • I noticed today that you were easily on time.

  • I noticed how thoughtful you were.

  • I saw you really thinking carefully.

  • Reinforce their self esteem by noticing, by consideration, and by listening.

    Bedtime is a wonderful opportunity to observe ways to improve self esteem. Before your children go off to sleep talk about the day together.

    Let them know that you observe, respect and consider them.

    Help them to reach upwards towards their best potential by giving them opportunities for practice.

    Don't Do it For Them!

    Low Self Esteem As a parent we all want our children to have friends and respond well to others. It greatly boosts a child's low self esteem to be singled out and made to feel special by one parent or the other.

    Read about Raising Confident Children

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