Are You a Stressed Working Mom?
Are You a Stressed Working Mom?
By Vishal P. Rao
After leading the life of a successful career woman for many years, when the little one comes along, life can be extremely stressful. Once the maternity leave finishes and you have to go back to the working schedule, life becomes extremely taxing. The drive to work and back again along with the responsibility of dropping and picking your child from day-care while also managing the high pressure demands of the office can be extremely taxing. Add to that the various surprises that small children ten to throw in to upset the entire days schedule and you have the perfect recipe for disaster.
An emotional outburst, a sudden deviation from planned timings, an urgent meeting called by the boss at the last minutes and other such unforeseen factors can ruin a day completely. Compromising and accepting the fact that you can no longer be the efficient and hard working career woman that you were earlier is another mental challenge that you may face each day.
It is pertinent to understand that if you have made the choice of being a working mom, there are sacrifices that you will need to make. It is obviously understandable that women who make this choice understand that they will need to do something to keep themselves busy after the kids grow up and become independent. It is mainly the fear of what they will do with their time at that stage that makes most women continue to work even when the times get tough. In some cases, however, it is the financial situation that necessitates the need for a double income in the family.
Whatever the situation is, it is important that you understand that if you are stressed out, you will not be able to give in your 100% to either your kid or your work and while the situation may get difficult to handle and there may also be times when you want to just give up, you will need to ensure that you manage stress in some way.
Here are some ways to reduce stress, especially for working moms:
If you have thought the various challenges that you are likely to face in the day and are prepared for the same, handling situations becomes much easier. Speak to the day care and plan for emergencies that may arise when you and your partner cannot make it to the day care on time. Reach out to grandparents and friends who can lend a helping hand at times like these.
Even though you may be extremely busy at work, make sure to call in the day care and find out about your child. If your child is old enough o talk, then have a small chat with him every day. Children who are neglected feel unwanted and play up a lot for attention. You can keep tantrums under control. As your child grows older, you should make it a point to explain the reasons why you need to go to work each day.
When you are good at doing things, there are various people who may try and ask you to take on additional responsibilities. Dont be an easy target for people and learn to say when you have to. Keep your priorities in mind. You may have to do this at the cost of your growth in the office but that is something that can take a back seat for some time before you are ready to take off again.
Even though the idea of spending some time with only yourself may seem a far fetched dream at the moment, it is possible to make it work if you really put your mind to it. Go out for a jog during your lunch hour or take out a couple of hours in the weekend to simply relax and do the things that you enjoy. Get adequate amounts of sleep and eat well so that you have the energy to sail through the day.
Dont feel shy about asking for help from people. If you feel to shy or too reserved to ask for help, you will be the only to lose out. Actually if you make the first move and ask for help, you will realize that there are various people who are willing to lend a helping hand. If you cannot find friends or family who help, try and find specialized day care centers that allow for extended hours. If finances allow you should look for some full time support during your working hours so that you are sure of the safety and well being of your child.
Even if you feel that you are not stressed (which would surprise many people if you are a working mom) and do not have any symptoms, practice some stress reduction techniques. Some of the techniques that you can practice are breathing exercises, yoga, meditation, music therapy, progressive relaxation and more. Having a weekly oil massage can also do wonders to your overall health and well-being.
Remember, its not just you who is going to benefit. Stress is contagious. Just like you feel stressed when you are with stressed and depressed people, you feel good when you are with happy people. When you are happy and stress-free, everyone around you (including your family) will automatically feel good. A happy woman makes a happy home.
Vishal P. Rao provides authentic tips, techniques and resources to manage stress on his site Guide to Stress Management.
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