Books about Toxic Parents
For many people books about toxic parents are the first step toward recognising and seeking help for themselves
Often, reading about someone else who feels just like we do amd who identifies our greatest fears and shame as their own, shines a light for the first time on our deepest needs.
The books I include here have been that light for many thousands of people over many years. The authors can be trusted to tell it like it is - in clear, articulate languge and to bring profound strength through their own personal experiences.
I personally recommend these books about toxic parents, having used them for myself and for my clients over a long period of time.
I would also encourage you to seek professional help if you identify yourself as the child of toxic parenting. Tremendous possiblities for change in your life can occur when you have awareness.
Read more articles about toxic parenting:
- What is a Toxic Parent? - parents whose own negative behaviour grossly inflicts emotional damage which contaminates their children's sense of self.
- Toxic Parents - the inner critical voice. One of the powerful byproducts of having toxic parents is that we are left with low self esteem and a strong inner critical voice that speaks continuously to us of our guilt, our shame and our wrongs.
- Toxic Parenting - Inconsistent Parents - Sometimes our parents were very consistent about being inconsistent in their toxic parenting of us. This has a big hangover effect on us as we grow up and as we parent our own children.
Best Books About Toxic Parenting:
Toxic Parents - by Susan Forward, Ph.D
I highly recommend this book to anyone wanting clear, understandable and trust worthy advice on this difficult subject. It is powerful reading and offers clear help by showing you HOW to take action about your life now.
Dr.Susan Forward is the definitive writer on the topic of Toxic Parenting.
If toxic parenting has been your legacy and you are ready to seek help then Toxic Parents, Overcoming their Hurtful Legacy and Reclaiming your Life
, brings simple, straightforward and pertinent ways of recognizing and dealing with your pain.
Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the real - life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from frustrating patterns in your relationships and discover a new world of inner confidence, strength and emotional independence.
Healing the Shame that Binds You - by John Bradshaw
For many years this classic book is the one I have loved, bought and given away continually because I believe in its message. John Bradshaw is well known in the field of recovery and his clear, concise writing style means that all his thoughts are accessible.
This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these root causes and release themselves from the shame that binds them to their past failures.
John Bradshaw believes that shame is what motivates our toxic behaviours.
Co-dependent No More - by Melody Beattie
I highly recommend this book. Codependent No More
is a book that I have bought countless times and given away to people who need it.
In fact one year I recall I purchased it 11 times, only to discover I still didn't have a copy of my own!
For twenty years Melody Beattie has been writing lucidly about codependency--the pattern of trying to control or change someone who repeatedly makes trouble for themselves and others, and who usually is manipulating and controlling others as well.
The problem is often part of an addictive syndrome (which the author understands well from her own experience); the solution she offers is to work at clarifying each person's boundaries, keeping everyone's responsibilities separated, and look after one's own interests in the face of demands to do otherwise.
This is the "bible" on co-dependency.
Written by someone who knows - someone who has been there, struggled and risen above it.
It will always have a place in my book shelf (if I haven't loaned it out!).
I would encourage you to seek professional help if you recognize patterns
from toxic parenting created in your childhood.
The past cannot be changed but the future can!
I wish you courage.